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It is not always easy to become more assertive. But it is
How to possible. So if your disposition or social environment tends
to be more passive or aggressive than assertive, then it is a
become more good idea to work on the following areas to help you to get
the balance right.
Assertive Value yourself and your rights

To be more assertive, you need to gain a good understanding of yourself. Develop a strong
sense of connect with your inherent value system. Identify, acknowledge and value the
values you are bringing to your team and your organisation. This self belief is the basis of
self confidence and the foundation of assertive behaviour.
Assertiveness is based on It will helps you to recognize that you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. It will
balance. It requires being give you the confidence to stand up for your rights and protect your boundaries and to
remain true to yourself and to your wants and needs
forthright about your wants
and needs, while still While self confidence is an important aspect of assertiveness, its crucial that you make sure
considering the rights needs that it doesn't develop into a sense of self - importance. Your rights, thoughts, feelings,
needs and desires are just as important as everyone else's but not more than anyone else's
and wants of others. When
you are assertive you are self Voice your needs and wants confidently
assured and you know that
this will help you to get your Don't wait for someone else to recognize what you need. Take the initiative and start to
identify the things that you want now. Then set goals so that you can achieve them. Find
point across firmly, fairly ways to make requests that avoid sacrificing other's needs. Remember you want people to
and with empathy help you, and asking for things in an overly aggressive or pushy way is likely to put them
off doing this for you and may even damage your relationship.

Express yourself in a positive way.
Aggressive behavior is based Its important to say what's on your mind, even if it is difficult or there is a negative issue to
be dealt with. But you must do it constructively and sensitively. You can allow yourself to
on winning. You do what is get angry, but control your emotions, and behavioural responses. Stay respectful at all
in your own best interest times. Accept positive feedback with grace and humbly. Accept negative feedback without
becoming defensive or angry.
without regard for the
rights, needs or feelings of learn to say no
other people. When you are Saying "No" is hard to do, especially when you are not used to doing it. But it is vital if you
want to become more assertive. Remember you cant possibly do everything or please
aggressive the power you everyone. So it is important that you protect your time and your workload by saying "No"
use is selfish. You may come when neccessary. Whenever you do say 'No' propose an alternate and preferably a win -
win solution that works for everyone
across as pushy or even
bullying. You take what you
use 'I' statements
want, often without asking Use 'I want', 'I need', or 'I feel' to convey basic assertions and get your points across firmly.
Try using verbs that are more definite and more empahtic when you communicate. This
will help you to send a clear message and avoid unecessary confusion.
Submissive or passive Use verbs like "will" instead of "could" or "should", "want" instead of "need" or "choose to"
behaviour is an avoidance instead of "have to".
mode of behaviour or an For example " I will be going on vacation next week, so I want somebody to cover my
workload"
accomodation of others' "I want to go on this training course because I believe that it will help me to progress in my
wishes without standing for role and career."
one's own rights. Passivity is " I choose this option because I think it will be more successful than the others"
based on unknown fears -
fear of failure, fear of The Scripting technique can help you to put your feelings across clearly and confidently to
rejection etc. Passive people someone when you need to assert yourself
usually have very poor self The event: Tell the other person exactly how you see the situation or problem
esteem and are often "Shiva, the production costs this month are 23 percent higher than average. You did not give me any
unhappy indication of this, which means I am completely surprised by this news"
Your feelings: Describe how you feel about the situation and express your emotions clearly
"This frustrates me, and makes me feel like you dont understand or appreciate how important financial
*Disclaimer: This is not a Personality Style Report. This report is controls are in this company."
based on the answers given by the respondent during the
assessment. As you read this report, please consider how the results Your needs: Tell the other person what exactly you need so that the other person doesn't
compare with your own sense of how you interact with others. Like have to guess
most psychometric assessments this report does not claim 100
percent accuracy. You should avoid making major decisions based "I need you to be honest with me and tell me when we start going over 10 percent of the assigned
on the results of only this assessment . It is strongly recomended budgeton anything."
that this report be interpreted alongside other personality
assessment tools like MBTI, Hogan, Clifton StrengthFinder, etc. The The consequences: Describe the positive impact that your request will have for the other
results of this assessment should not be used to make a judgement person or the company if your needs are met successfully.
about whether any behaviour or any person is good or bad. This
report is designed specifically for meeting training and development "If you do this we will be in a good position to hit our targets and get a better end of year bonus."
objectives, and should be used only for such purposes.